Criticism can quickly put us on the defense. No matter how constructive it may be, we can easily react as if we are being personally attacked. Going with our gut instinct to defend ourselves from criticism can keep us from being able to gain valuable insight into possible flaws. If we can learn to accept…
We rarely felt comfortable authentically expressing ourselves to others when we were in a state of active addiction. We became chameleons and changed every aspect of who we are to become who we felt others wanted us to be. Eventually, we came to a point where we lost touch with who we were behind the…
Meetings are a great way to get involved in the recovery community and benefit from hearing the experience, strength, and hope of others. In early sobriety, it is suggested to attend a meeting every day for the first 90 days. “90 in 90” is a great way to develop the healthy habit of incorporating recovery…
We almost always enter into recovery thinking that we are alone in the feelings that led us into addiction. Perhaps we faced trauma or suffer from mental health conditions and feel as though we are somehow immune from the ability to recover from our addiction. We may see others as being better or worse off…
There is a saying in the rooms of 12-Step recovery fellowships: “Whatever you put before your sobriety, you will lose.” When we entered into the beginning stages of our recovery, we made the decision that we were willing to go to any lengths to achieve victory over alcohol and drugs. Sometimes, however, we begin to…
The goal of the Twelve Step recovery model is for an individual to have a spiritual experience and entire psychic change as a means of maintaining permanent sobriety. The mental obsession with alcohol and drugs is removed and we successfully recover from a hopeless state of body and mind by working the Twelve Steps and…
Fellowship can be one of the best parts of entering into recovery. We go to meetings and are surrounded by others who understand the struggle of addiction and alcoholism—we realize we are no longer alone and can help and be helped by others who are just like us. Yet, there are times when we simply…
Entering into a program of recovery requires one to make a commitment to go to any lengths to achieve victory over addiction and alcoholism. There are moments, however, when we feel overwhelmed with mental, physical, and spiritual pain. These feelings are entirely normal and strike most significantly during the stages of withdrawal. If we are…
Many people entering into Twelve Step recovery fellowships are uncomfortable with the seemingly ubiquitous use of the word “God.” Twelve Step recovery, however, is not religious—the use of the word “God” is simply referring to the concept of a power greater than oneself. We realized that we were powerless over alcohol and drugs, and to…
Detox is one of the first steps toward a life of sobriety. It is the process of detoxifying the body of all traces of drugs or alcohol. Chronic drug and alcohol use can lead to physical dependence, and if we are to recover from addiction we must go through the process of detox, no matter…